9 out of 10 – only bug bear is that there isn’t always a happy ending
In light of the festive season I feel the need to do a little blog on one of my favourite seasonal films. I completely sucked this year and didn’t get around to watching this film until last night, but saying that it was lovely as me, mum and dad all got to sit down and watch it together. For those who have seen this will understand that there wasn’t a dry eye in the house. However for the few who have escaped the phenomenon that is The Holiday it is about 2 women, Kate Winslet and Cameron Diaz. One from Surrey (Winslet) the other from L.A. (Diaz). They have both suffered heartbreak and feel the need to escape for the Christmas season so house swap. In turn they then meet rather lovely men… Winslet meets Jack Black and Diaz meets Jude Law (Winslet’s brother). A romance develops and like every christmas film there is a happy ever after.
That’s the bare basics of the film. The heart of it, I think, is that all girls can relate to it. We’ve all felt deeply lonely, especially at Christmas which in my opinion (as well as weddings) is the most depressing time of year. It is where we feel our most lonely, depressed and down. Coincide it with the amount of food and alcohol we intake it’s not surprising the our self-esteem is usually at an all time low. Why do you think there are so many hook ups at office parties? Which weirdly enough is where this story really begins. Before I start I need to stress how well this film in written by Nancy Meyers, baring some quotes which are really brutally truthful. My favourite quote of the film is right at the beginning when Winslet is describing love and how she’s been in love with an ex for 3 years who then announces his engagement to another.
“I’ve found almost everything ever written about love to be true. Shakespeare said “Journeys end in lovers meeting.” What an extraordinary thought. Personally, I have not experienced anything remotely close to that, but I am more than willing to believe Shakespeare had. I suppose I think about love more than anyone really should. I am constantly amazed by its sheer power to alter and define our lives. It was Shakespeare who also said “love is blind”. Now that is something I know to be true. For some quite inexplicably, love fades; for others love is simply lost. But then of course love can also be found, even if just for the night. And then, there’s another kind of love: the cruelest kind. The one that almost kills its victims. Its called unrequited love. Of that I am an expert. Most love stories are about people who fall in love with each other. But what about the rest of us? What about our stories, those of us who fall in love alone? We are the victims of the one sided affair. We are the cursed of the loved ones. We are the unloved ones, the walking wounded. The handicapped without the advantage of a great parking space! Yes, you are looking at one such individual. And I have willingly loved that man for over three miserable years! The absolute worst years of my life! The worst Christmas’, the worst Birthday’s, New Years Eve’s brought in by tears and valium. These years that I have been in love have been the darkest days of my life. All because I’ve been cursed by being in love with a man who does not and will not love me back.”
This could not be more true. I count what I once felt as love but am not sure but one thing I am sure of is, is that it was unrequited. And it hurt like a bitch. People usually think how great it must be to be single. Free, independent, etc etc, but many singletons out there are as describe… The walking wounded. Now this man Winslet is describing is like many guys I have met. They know exactly how to reel you in, you let your guard down, and then they drop you. Not quite hard enough though for you to be over them, to have closure, oh no they like to keep you on a line, tease you and basically be an absolute knob head. Now this isn’t against all men, I haven’t turned into a bra burner and all that jazz. For instance one of the most endearing parts of the film is that the 2 male leads Black and Law have both experienced heartbreak. Black gets cheated on in the film and you see his hurt and Law is a widower left with 2 children. It is just reassuring to know that guys do fall as hard as girls do and are then in turn hurt just the same.
Now although Winslet is by far the most articulate in the film, Diaz has her own stinkers of lines!
“I know myself. I’m not sure I even fall in love. Not like the way other people do. How’s that for something to admit?”
I consider myself in this bracket. Everyone around me seems to be able to fall in love. Well me, since being a bit trampled on a few years ago I find it hard to even think of the idea of love. It’s like an alien concept to me. The idea of needing, wanting, thinking of someone that much, to me just seems exhausting. Wow could I sound more like a hermit.
There’s also a point where Diaz confronts Law for him not telling her about his 2 daughters. Stating that he was the one who wanted to get to know each other. Why is it that guys especially say one thing and do the complete opposite just because it suits them. One personal example that comes to mind is a guy who was very will we won’t we told me how much he liked honesty and then went on about how much he liked me. The next morning I got a MSN message, MSN for christ sake, saying he had got back with his ex the previous morning, before telling me all this honesty bla bla bla. Hypocrisy is not an attractive quality.
As I said about this film me, my mum and MY DAD were watching this. This can be a family film. I think maybe not for the young “I’m too cool for emotions” guy but the more sensitive, or I guess family guys it is a winner.
I can’t finish this post without a couple more quotes, the writing is really what makes this film;
“- Iris, in the movies we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason you are behaving like the best friend.
- You’re so right. You’re supposed to be the leading lady of your own life, for god’s sake! Arthur, I’ve been going to a therapist for three years, and she’s never explained anything to me that well. That was brilliant. Brutal, but brilliant.”
“I like corny. I’m looking for corny in my life.”
It definitely gives people something to think about.
Own your life.